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Power
Up Words to PUMP Up Your "Online Dating Profile" By: David Newton
(c) 2007
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Power words to
"PUMP UP" your Online Dating Profile
Getting successful results through
online dating is a matter of understanding psychology and the laws of
supply & demand. Once you have a basic understanding of these two
principles you can craft your profile to get far more attention than you
may have in the past.
Thinking this through further ... your
online dating presence is based almost entirely on words with the
exception of your personal picture. The words that you use convey
everything about you to the reader. You will attract attention from others
based almost entirely on the words you use in your profile so it is
essential that you select your words with great care.
Before we talk about how to use power
words in your profile, let us first consider the psychology of attracting
people through online dating. When a single person of the opposite sex
does a search at an online dating site or online dating service they do so
with some anticipation of finding their ideal mate. Usually most of us
have high expectations of who that person is.
Nearly all of us want somebody who is
positive, happy, fun to be with, active, confident, self assured, social,
enjoys a good laugh, romantic, able to communicate, thoughtful, kind,
affectionate, successful, an achiever, healthy, energetic, organized,
capable, strong, determined, intelligent, expressive, artistic, creative,
financially stable, good career, compassionate, understanding, good self
esteem, dresses well, wide range of interests, gets things done, has
emotional intelligence and so on. I call these characteristics "attraction
qualities".
Contrast these attraction qualities with
the opposite, or "repelling qualities" such as : lazy,
negative, whinger, unemployed, broke, slob, boring, thoughtless, arrogant,
chauvinist, apathy, complainer, uninterested, poor self esteem, sloppy
dresser, messy, unorganized, filled with hatred, inactive, no goals,
lacking confidence, and so on. Now most people don't directly use these
repelling qualities in their profile, but that is the message that is
conveyed to the reader.
So most of us when we search at an online
dating site, are hoping we will find someone who has some of the
attraction qualities. The demand for people with these attraction
qualities is very high ... but here is the real key ... the supply of
people with these attraction qualities is quite low. Now I don't literally
mean that there are not loads of people with these qualities ... of course
there are. It's just that they have not created their profile to
convey these attraction qualities very effectively.
Imagine how much more success you would
have from online dating if your profile was loaded with power words that
conveyed these attraction qualities.
So if you are ready to pump up your
profile with power words then lets get to work. The first thing you need
to do is identify four or five power words or attraction qualities that
relate to you. So if you are generally introverted then there would be no
point using outgoing sociable person in your profile as that would be
misleading. Never lie in your profile as you will always get found out in
the end.
All of us have at least four or five good
qualities that will appeal to others. Write a list of those four or five
good qualities. So for example mine might be:
- Optimistic
- Goal focused
- Passionate
- Thinker
Now that you have your power words you
need to write a short paragraph about each one. You don't need to write a
novel, just two or three lines will do the job for each one. So continuing
my example:
- I am an optimistic person. I
always look for the best in every situation and in people as I believe
that you will find something good if you look for it. My optimistic
nature means that I attract optimistic positive people
to me.
- My future is well planned out
as I have a strong goal orientation. I know where I am going
and driven to achieve my goals.
- Most things in life I approach with
great passion. I believe that passion is where the real
energy and juice in life is. I am passionate about my work, my
beliefs, and always passionate about my partner.
- My friends would describe me as a thinker.
I am an intelligent person who reads widely from personal
development books through to philosophy and spirituality.
So you can see from the above example how
I have taken a few key attraction qualities or power words, and turned
them into the basis of a strong profile that describes who I am as a
person. Using this type of approach will attract far more interest from
people than using bland non-descriptive words.
Again let me point out that you must
actually possess the qualities that you use as your power words. If you do
not then you will eventually be found out. So look within yourself and
identify four or five key qualities about yourself that will attract other
people. They are there if you look for them.
So pump up your profile today with the
use of power words. Load your profile full of attraction qualities and
eliminate any of your repelling qualities. Think carefully about the words
you use in your profile as it is the key to your success in online dating!
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