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Playing Hard To
Get - By: Katia Loisel
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By: Katia
Loisel (c) 2008
PLAYING HARD TO GET
New research suggests another approach may work better, writes Katia
Loisel-Furey co-author of How to get the man you want & How to get
the woman you want.
Should Women Play Hard To Get?
You’re sitting at the bar wearing your sexiest little black dress
and winner smile, scanning the room nervously for ‘Mr. Right’. From
across the crowded room you see him, immaculately dressed, an air of
confidence surrounding him like a veil. A sexy smile dances on his
lips as his eyes lock with yours, and for that split second you feel
as though you’re the only two people in the room.
Blood rushes to your face like a tidal wave and you quickly look
away to compose yourself. As you turn back for a second look, dress
hitched up a notch and loaded with your best Angelina Jolie pout, a
niggling thought stops you dead in your tracks.
If men are the hunter and prefer the thrill of the chase, shouldn’t
we play hard to get?
How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams
If the world of dating wasn’t confusing enough, every time we turn
on the TV or read a magazine we get different advice. So how does a
single woman attract the man of her dreams?
A global study ‘Real People, Real Answers, Real Stories’ found that
over 50% of men wouldn’t approach a woman if there was no sign of
interest from them and that fear of rejection was the main reason
they wouldn’t approach. In reality most men would rather do twenty
rounds in a boxing ring than risk being rejected by you.
Selective Difficulty
Scientists have suggested that we favour ‘selective difficulty’.
We’re attracted to people who play hard to get for everyone, except
us, with 96% of men preferring the direct approach.
The theory of ‘selective difficulty’ was tested using a version of
online dating. Three women were given their online matches. One was
keen to meet all of her dates, the second played hard to get and
rejected all the men and the third showed interest in only one man.
100% of the male participants in the study preferred the woman that
was only interested in them.
Give the Myth the Flick
If you’re looking for ‘Mr Right’ and not a player who’s only after
another notch in his belt, it’s time to give the dating myth of
playing hard to get the flick.
Next time your eyes meet his, give him a cheeky grin and a loaded
look that says “come hither”, count to four before looking away,
then look back and watch as he makes a beeline in your direction.
For more information on the new book How to get the man you want &
How to get the woman you want visit
www.perfectdates.com.au or for
more flirting tips visit
www.top-flirting-tips.com
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