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Love
On The Line - By:
Truity
Williams
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LOVE ON THE LINE
Technology today has opened the doors to relationships in ways, which ten years ago we could never have imagined. In an instant we can connect to the Internet chatting to someone we don’t know anywhere in the world. Feelings of excitement begin to stir as the new technology opens doorways to levels of intimacy with people who are in reality complete strangers. In an instant the stranger becomes a friend, magic happens, your guard is down and before you know it you have begun to disclose the most intimate details of your life to a perfect stranger. In an instant the mind begins to weave its magic and before you know it, one or both of you are excited and eager for the first physical meeting to take place.
Technology has created the opportunity for us to share an unprecedented level of intimacy with perfect strangers anywhere anytime. You go online into a chat room and before you know it, there is someone knocking. The computer gives a false sense of security in that we are in the comfort of our own home, and the buzz of the unknown compounded by the thought “there’s no harm in this,” overrides the need for self-protection. Very rarely do we stop to consider who the person really is on the other end of the line. Lonely people, looking for something, searching for someone to understand and accept them for who they are. Sure the person you are chatting to on the other end of the line could be a very nice person, or for all you know they could be a ‘Jack the Ripper in sheep’s clothing’. So how do we discern?
The development of a global society and a technological age has brought with it a diverse number of obstacles related to developing quality human relationships. With technology has come a downturn in social contact, and they’re for a down turn in social skills. People now spend more time on computers than walking on the beach. And to compound this the break down in society also means that many people simply do not have the family roots and sense of belonging that we may have experienced in past generations, so for many people technology has become the vehicle for communication.
It would appear, whether we realize it or not, that many of us have become addicts of love, and this addiction is being fed by the expectations of a society who are fast becoming addicted to all sorts of things including love and sex and using computers to communicate. Society is encouraging all manner of addictions with its media influences and its throwaway mentality and many people don’t think twice about marrying today, divorcing tomorrow. Weather we realize it or not many of us have lost the understanding of real love and have simply become addicted to the excitement of love and the hormone rush that comes with every new relationship. The act of sex is a necessary part of intimacy, and yet the act of sexual encounter is regarded by some as something that is to be attached only to the procreation of the species. When you think about it in that way it is true. The act of making love allows a connection of two people in the highest spiritual form, and when in total love and giving has the most amazing and completing energy that anyone can experience.
The physiological response at the time of intercourse is equal to the most powerful healing chemical cocktail that could ever be created. Our bodies crave it, to heal and nurture especially in this world where there are often too few gentle safe places to rest a weary soul. Without laughter and touch, we wither up and die. During loving, sensual, playful intercourse our body produces even more endorphins and body chemicals than any other experience we may have. This chemical release is essential to the well being and healing of the body’s systems. So is it any wonder that we long for intimacy? People’s fear of intimacy can rob them of the elixir of life, as our body’s ability to combat cancer, and other immune response illness is dramatically enhanced when our physiology is stimulated in a positive manner.
The Essential Ingredient –It all begins in the mind! In life everything we experience begins and ends in the mind! Thoughts are substance, and that substance shapes our world. Our thinking, what we focus on, what we fear, what we want, what we believe – all blends together and results in the experience we call life. Important: The more we trust our own judgment, the more we are self honest, the more we are able to make conscious CHOICES which lead to positive life experiences. Everything we experience in life, be it success, fulfillment, love, hate, a better can opener, electricity, everything comes from the mind and is the direct result of how we perceive the words, needs, stimulus which bombards our every waking moment.
When we meet someone on line, its like make a dream person. Someone supplies a photo (maybe) the photo will always be the best one they have, they will give you some info on their description, and likes and dislikes. 98% of people pad what they write. The minute you make contact, your mind is already thinking what’s in it for me? Your hormones are already beginning to give you a buzz as the other person begins to play in order to manipulate their own fix of energy – and those hormones run. The key is to be aware of what is happening to you, and to know when you’re taking yourself on a detour just for the quick fix. How do I know this, well this is my story. I thought I was genuinely looking for a relationship, but in reality, no I was just getting a hormone fix. Something I learned many years ago is that there is a purpose to experiencing emotional pain, it draws our attention to aspects of ourselves that we keep on avoiding. Some people avoid taking responsibility for their lives; some use control to try to assure their lives will be successful. Others attempt to cover their inadequacies by being addicted to emotions or substances in order to help them to deal with the difficulties of day-to-day life. Some people emotionally manipulate others by temper tantrums, withdrawal, and threats just to name a few undesirable traits. Be honest with yourself, what have you been trying to avoid in your life? What changes do you need to make in order that the situation resolve itself? Get it right inside yourself accept yourself for who you are, gently work on changing the things you don’t respect about yourself and take responsibility for your life and I guarantee like magic love will appear knocking at your door.
Today I jokingly tell people, that my life has been like the movie, “the man who sued God,” with Billy Connelly. The powers that be just kept on destroying everything I tired to do, nothing worked, relationships just fell apart, business struggled, money was non existent, and this kept up until I was finally completely bare bum stripped bare of everything in my life.
Homeless and broke, with nowhere to go, I had no option but to be totally honest with myself, and face the depths of my soul so deep that I thought I would disappear forever in the sadness and pain.
My business wouldn’t work, I had been developing my TRUITY product line for over 10 years now and my family was sick and tired of my emotional dramas and had abandoned ship. My life was in total turmoil, and ultimately I had no option but to reach deep inside and the moment I acknowledged the one thing I wanted more than success or money was to be a part of a family again. A real family and with that I let go and within days of totally accepting what my soul needed to feel fulfilled, my life changed. A part of that honesty involved acknowledging that I chose men who were either emotionally unavoidable or men who were weak in some way that I could control and keep at a distance in my life.
In researching for my manuscript and workbook I have looked at life from all angles, from passion to desire, from addition to love, from intimacy to pure lust. I have looked into the hearts, minds and souls of everyone around me gathering up the gifts they bring in awareness. As a result I have come to the conclusion that society is well on the way to developing an open attitude towards relationships and sexuality, however most seem to be unaware that the cost of this lack of morality is the loss of love and commitment. Somehow love has become lost and entangled in a confusion of sexual stimulation and expectation and addiction all of which cloud the senses and sidetrack us from finding our life-long mate. After all that I have said it will leave the reader wondering if its all worth it? Yes it surely is! I can guarantee that there is such a thing as a trusting, exciting, loving, fulfilling relationship. You can have everything you ever wanted and more, a relationship with no struggle, no arguments, no conflict – how do I know. I have one!
And the funniest thing of all, it was right in front of my eyes for many years, but I didn’t want to see it.
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and remember:
“The thoughts we have today become the reality we experience tomorrow.”
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